"You can't tell me what
to do!" A child that suddenly begins
to exhibit a defiant attitude has probably fallen in with
a new group of friends. This defiance itself is not the
core issue but a manifestation
of what is really going on. Defiance will make family
life miserable if left unchecked.
"I don't care!"
If your formerly straight-A child's grades take a sharp
turn for the worse this is usually one of the first indicators
that something is wrong. His/her priorities have changed
for some reason. Substance abuse of some kind is likely
"You're not wearing that!"
If the apparel of your child should take a dramatic change
again, they probably have a new set of friends. The variation
of extreme clothing changes can range from all black,
to chains, and even more provocative styles of dress.
The all black look is usually associated with what is
referred to as the Gothic look. Care should be taken to
closely monitor a child with this new look as innocent
as it seems, it is definitely not a good direction for
them to be headed in. Obviously a girl who begins to dress
more provocatively is more than likely sexually active
or may be interested in becoming so. A child who wears
all of the same color of clothing may be investigating
becoming associated with a gang. They will usually deny
it but it again is something that should be closely monitored.
"What are you listening to?"
In many cases a change in behavior will be accompanied
by a change in music. It would be wise to jot down the
names of the artists a child is listening to and research
them on the internet. Much can be learned about a child's
lifestyle by learning about what and who they are listening
to for entertainment.
The Wrong Crowd. If
your child has had a falling out with long time friends
and is now spending time with friends that you don't know,
it would be beneficial to get to know who your child is
spending their time with. If your child is not bringing
his or her new friends home for you to meet, you should
be concerned. Talk to your teens old buddies. They usually
know more than you'd think.
Drug Use. Sure
signs that your child is using drugs is a sudden lack
of interest in activities that were once very important
to them and a new cast of friends that appear to you to
be the wrong crowd. Physical signs include slurred speech,
glazed eyes, rapid weight loss, and loss of motivation.
Give us a quick call and together we can discuss the
best course of action for your child. We can be reached
any time at 1-866-590-6816.